Grocery Store Dating in the Age of Instacart

It's been nearly a decade and some change since I last blogged. A lot has happened, but don't worry. I will supply you with all the juicy secrets to help you find the love of your life at the Grocery store. Dating, like technology, has spawned a whole entire way to connect with someone who could potentially be the love of your life. I've spent so much time trying to chase this crazy goal of finding the one. Since I was a very young pre-schooler to a single guy in my college dorm room dreaming of true love. It's been a long, sometimes lonely road. But like they say, it's not about the distance, it's about the journey. 

Finding love could be a long arduous task, or a whimsical experience. The adventure is where you invest your time, energy and passion. I know a lot of my close male and female friends alike that spend so much time chasing that dream of having enough money to survive, but never enough love to survive. Perhaps, if we invest more in chasing love rather than not being broke... then maybe we will be better at finding love. I don't mean go trap a man with kids, or go off and make some babies to force a static love, or worse go be with someone because of the money or power of control. I mean really finding love so you could make adult choices with your life that are truly meaningful.

Technology has changed a bunch on how people date nowadays. With grocery store dating the whole field changed too. Now, you could just order groceries on instacart so you don't even have to step inside a grocery store, and with post covid life - some people avoid crowds all together. What are we supposed to do? I posted this to myself and found that what we truly need is the human connection again. I could not sit idle and watch our whole society crumble and become this comfortable controlled blob of superficial freight. The sad truth is covid and technology killed a bunch of chance encounters, a whole lot of should've could've, a whole lot of love stories.

I'm here to declare a few things. One, grocery store dating is alive and well. Two, I'm back. Three, the World needs love now. If there's one thing we should be learning is how to make love and not war. It's a war on people when you control a mass population to have less success in love, it's a war on people when you literally tear them apart. We are here to declare love, an abundance. I'm here to show you not to be scared, controlled, or blinded by what they are trying to make you believe, but to be free so you could believe in love...after grocery store dating.

Part one: So after I got laid, I decided to stop writing and start living. My new goal was not so much about trying to bag a girl every day, but to actually live through a relationship. I never had a girlfriend but that changed while I started writing and conceptualizing Grocery store dating. I was a dating coach and already mastered the art of pick up by this time. I wanted to share with people my new secret. The power of day game, and more specifically the power of the grocery store for dating. 

I remember talking to Dr. Paul Dobransky, my business partner on a new product I was writing: called: “grocery store dating : how to hook up in any aisle.” I mean that is a catchy title and a solid product to sell to guys and gals paying for dating advice. I was not even sure why I wanted to share this with Dr Paul, maybe it was because he had a platform and I was just starting out. Either way, the grocery game sessions were produced around this time in Dr. Paul’s personal studio, the backseat of his jeep. 

I will include a link here so you could hear all the sessions. 

This chapter is to be continued…   - Tali 

FOURTH LESSON: SAMPLE ANY ITEM OF YOUR CHOICE WITH SOMEONE YOU JUST MET

Sample This Relationship

Items at a grocery store are similar to potential mates because you never know what to expect behind the safety seal of love. So how does one redefine this conundrum of distribution? Well, one must sample the item before you decide to buy it.

Grocery Store Dating

Find Love at the Grocery Store

Learn the secrets to successfully find a date in your local grocery store.

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Tiny Samples = Big Big Love

Sampling Yummy Food and Love

So, I came across one of the best strategies to test drive any potential item at a grocery store!!! It's called sampling, and believe me this is a springboard to love in the fast lane.
In today's very expensive market, groceries can run the average Joe up a financial Mt. Everest. I never worry about the raising prices of grocery items because I learned the insider secrets...ready, here it is: Sampling an item and not purchasing it is totally legal. In fact, top grocery store chains value this practice in order to get consumers hooked. So, I could not help but to connect this notion with finding a potential mate. What did I discover? Well, besides sampling virtually anything from, Organic Raw Agave to Hempmilk, I could not help but to wonder: why not sample these trendy items with someone I find attractive.

Mission 4: Sample any item of your choice with someone you just met. Keep in mind that this mission is gold if you sample an item you truly want to try out. Once you select a target item you must find a target. Again, preferably, you should chose someone you would like to get to know on a romantic level...so chose wisely. Here's a good opener to test out on a target in order to get him or her to try an item with you.
Opener 1: "Hey, check this out, I don't usually do this but I would love to sample this item with someone. C'mon, let's get lost in adventure".
Opener 2: "Hey, have you ever had this? Well, let's sample it together".

What does this do? Well, it creates an instant date, provides mystery, and demonstrates that you are a leader in control. Actually, by simply sampling you instantly become someone who that person has never encountered before in a grocery store- you become a romantic hero in ones daily humdrum life. Congratulations, you are now a hero. Once you sample any item (a bittersweet chocolate bar, hempmilk, toilet paper) you have loads of room to have more fun in the grocery store. I personally love to sample random items as soon as I get in the grocery store. This simple habit allows me to move forward in progressing towards finding true love in the grocery store. Another thing this mission allows for me is it makes me very popular. It makes me popular because everyone wants to sample yummy food...what better position to be in then in one where random strangers want to eat something you got.
There are many directions to run with this. For example you can get a number so easy by simply sowing the seeds for an instant bounce or a day two. I like to do this by talking about this way cool place to hang out and get a drink. I do this right when we are at the height of sampling an item. once I show the seeds I start to sow by talking about how I will go to this cool place very soon. At this point I throw a false time constraint and take out a piece of paper. I then, proceed to fluff talk while I write my info on the piece of paper and tear it in two. Once I do this, I hand my potential love the pieces of paper along with a pen. I continue to fluff talk while my target proceeds to write down her info. I quickly transition to a new thread or an old one and stay in the conversation for at least another minute after we number exchange. Once, I got the number I follow up with her by calling her and asking for an instant recommendation for any item one might find at a grocery store. For example, once we finish our sampling and exchange info I usually separate from my target and I'll call her while shopping. I call her for advice, we meet up again and now I have a second date. At this rate we could be on five dates by the time we check out of the grocery store. Here is a brief field report on how I recently did this:

Ok...here is the very first installment of my day game lifestyle. Today's lesson includes how I number close in a grocery store enviornment. Let's go...
Yesterday was an amazing day game day for me at the grocery store...actually everyday is a great day for me at the grocery store...Why? Well, more on that later...for now let's get to my FR.

I was walking by the alternative-milk section, and as I was getting my usually Organic Almond Milk I notice a very attractive HB (Hot Babe) reaching for some rice milk...

Tali: Excuse me, may I suggest something even more yummy than that?(touching her rice milk while looking into her left eye).

HB Rice Milk: Sure. I usually buy this because it's very cheap and it reminds me of something my mom makes.

Tali: That's so cool...but taste this ( I open my Almond Milk)...let's go get some cups and sample this stuff...c'mon ( I grab her hand and start walking away...she follows me). OK, let's find some cups.

HB Rice Milk: Wow... I can't believe we are doing this.

Tali: It's cool...it's our right. (I take her to the dairy section and ask the grocer if he could supply us with two cups to sample the product. The grocer agrees...I tell the grocer he better make that three cups...hey, the more the better).

HB Rice Milk: I've never done this before at a grocery store...You're so crazy...do you always do this?

Grocer: Here you go boss.

Tali: No, thank you. You Rock...now come drink with us.
(we all drink to life...)

HB Rice Milk: Yummy (looks to me for another).

Tali: (Sweeeet)...ready for round two?

Grocer: I like this stuff man....you guys made my day.

Tali: sweet... (to HB Rice Milk) Hey, it seems like we made a new friend and had a couple of drinks in the process...I think this makes for an amazing time!!!

HB Rice Milk: Yeah....I love this place...

Tali: So, tell me your story....

(I ended up number closing her without asking for a number...how did I do this???)

contin...

Tali: Really, that's soo cool (I grab a blank sheet of paper and I rip it in two...I write my name and number on one sheet and I proceed to hand her both sheets along with a pen...)

HB Rice Milk: Blah...blah..blah (she takes the pen and paper and writes her info down...) blah, blah....

Tali: ( I notice a little dog in her purse..) Whoa....that's a dog... you can get kicked out of here with that thing...

HB Rice Milk: I know...I sneeked him in..

Tali: He's the cutest little thing ever...tell me about him....

Note: I stay in the set for a couple of more min after i got the digits...sweet.

Her name is Kat...so I nicked named her kitty kat. I will meet up with her this weekend. Awesome.

OK, so this is one of many modes you can use to riff with this mission. Go sample things, right now. Hell, it is your right.

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LESSON THREE: FINDING LOVE AT YOUR LOCAL EXPRESS CHECK-OUT LANE

Next in Line = Next of Find

Finding Love in the Express Lane.

A friend of mine always informed me about the magic behind the fast check-out lanes. I always knew there was something ethereal about these lanes. Perhaps, it was all the flirting going on, or simply just knowing that you are in a special lane.

Mission 3: Finding love at your local express check-out lane. Wanna know a secret? Every lane in the grocery store is an express lane. Why? Simply because every time you are in a check-out lane you have the opportunity to strike a conversation about anything. I found that almost every time I'm ready to check-out I usually run into a potential mate. In fact, it is the best place to transition out from. What do I mean by this? Simply, it is so much easier to say, "Hey, let's get some tea next door. Wait up for me, bag my stuff if you would like to help." That line is gold in the check-out lane.

First Step to bounce from the check-out lane to another attraction location, open. You must open your mouth and initiate the conversation. This can be done anywhere within the grocery store, or while in the check-out lane.I personally love to open with a simple, clash of the carts. How is this done? Well, to be very specific one needs to allow the cart to feel the energy of the target cart. Or, you can simply bump the cart in front of you.

While in a check-out lane you simply open by saying, "excuse me, my cart seems to feel your carts good energy." Once, your target smiles or responds you follow up with, "that will cost you extra. C'mon, give me your love."

Bag Me Already

What to do once you are ready to check-out? In order for you to check-out of a grocery stroe and check-in to a motel...I mean into each others lives, you must make sure the relationship is bagged and ready to go. How do we do this? Well, here's one method that is so easy even your nephew can do it.

SECOND LESSON: SHATTERED GLASS AND VULNERABILITY

Today I noticed something very interesting while at the grocery store: the power of being vulnerable.

Shattered glass usually equals a clean up at some aisle. Not anymore. What if shattered glass could equal a state of vulnerability? What if being in this state, of being vulnerable, could be attractive? My advice to you: Drop a glass item and notice the attention you get. Now, I don't advocate doing this in anyway that can harm or danger anyone. *Disclaimer: You are responsible for the information being offered here. Use at your own risk.*

Alright, now that we have sown the seeds of love, how can we pull this off in the real world grocery store environment? The key to this lesson is to project vulnerability. This has to be done in the moment and needs to be congruent with your intent. Remember, in order to produce the building blocks of the chance encounter you must activate one of the four core elements. By demonstrating vulnerability with the right intent you cut through a potentials autopilot daily routine to reach that spot where they are highly responsive to emotion, energy, will, and intent. Once we activate one of these four core elements we can make anyone fall in love with us.

FIRST LESSON: CRASH CART GAME AND SERENDIPITY

Your First Grocery Store Dating Technique...Do the Counter-Intuituve:

For today's first lesson. I want to express the power of an accidental encounter...or what I like to call serendipity. Look at any holiday movie and you will encounter a reouccuring theme: The power of the chance enounter. The potential that the serendipitous meeting holds is truly infinite. Love, is nothing but the start of a chance enounter that has turned into mutual shared moments of happiness. What if we could manufacture this chance enounter and produce the begining of the emotional feelng of love. According to the world renowned relationship advisor and board certified psychiatrist, Dr. Paul Dobransky ( www.doctorpaul.net ), people fall in love when we share positive emotional energy within our personal boundry. In other words, it's the shared positive time together we share with someone that adds up to produce love.

How do we produce love? We must first have an impact into each other's lives. We must cut through our autopilot daily routine and reach that core of vulnerablity. We must reach that spot where we are highly responsive to emotion, energy, will, and intent. Once we activate one of these four core elements we can make anyone fall in love with us. Well that's nice, but how does that fit within the grocery store dating field? Easy, once we produce this phenomenon we can truly give the gift of finding valuable or agreeable things not sought for- serendipity.

Why sow the seeds of love at a grocery store? Why not? Why should I go to normal attraction locations for meeting people? Places such as: websites, nightclubs, bars, and parties? Sure these enviornments are specifically created for the hook-up or a fling, but are they ripe places for sowing the seeds of love? I think not. I believe these places are great to take a potential date you first encountered at the grocery store, but I think that the days of meeting people at these environments for love are obsolete.

Do the counter-intuitive. Why blend in with the rest of the mass population? Why advertise yourself as another? Instead, innovate the way the whole dating and relationship field works. The counter-intuitive of meeting people would be going somewhere no one else is going: doing what other people are not hip to. Doing the counter-intuitive is attractive because you will stand out from the mass population. You will be an innovater, and not an advertiser.

First Lesson: Crash Cart Game

Your first lesson, for Grocery Store Dating, is to spontaneously crash your cart into someone who you feel could be a love target. How do you do this? Simply find a prime love target and allow your cart to somehow hit their cart. Once you do this you instantly activate one of the four core elements of love. You instantly produce serendipity and allow for love to grow. Note: be gentel with your cart crash...Don't be agressive, but be loving and generally suprised. Be ready to have a general follow up to the interaction. This can simply be by talking about an item in your potential mate's cart, or about something funny and wacky (such as: "we need to exchange insurance information"). Once you have activted this outcome you can turn the events into a loving interaction.

How do you turn this technique into a potential love? What's the second step? Stay tuned for more...to be continued.

A How-To-Guide For Meeting Someone Special at the Grocery Store

Who would've thought that lurking behind the new items display at your local grocery store could be the love of your life. The purpose of this lens is to introduce you to the social dynamics that occur right in your local grocery store. What if you could go to the grocery store and instantly strike up a conversation with anyone, and have that turn into a positive interaction that could lead to love? In this how-to-guide I will provide you with the most innovative methods in dating and relationships for the grocery store environment. I will provide you with daily in-grocery reports on my own experience meeting people. Consider this the start of a movement that will bring down the various mulit-million dollar dating and relationships companies out there. In other words: Why waste money in dating and relationships when you can just go to the grocery store and meet your next love? I will provide you with all the tools and concepts that will guide you to finding a perfect partner at the grocery store. Who would've thought that meeting people could be as easy as picking out an organic hass avocado? Here we go...it's time to go out and not only bring food home with us, but also bring home that special someone. So, let's get this apple rolling. This is going to be one of the greatest and funnest movements ever. Are you in? Or, are you just going to be thinking of paper or plastic?